Because baby massage is a baby-focused activity that should be a positive experience, look to your baby and consider where you are in your day. Is it a good time for baby? He'll tell you. Is it a good time for you? Is it then a good time for both of you? It should be a good time for both of you.

Will there be major distractions? Phones ringing, doorbells chiming, other members of the family calling for your attention and/or you just can't get that task list out of your head. Sure, baby massage can happen anytime and anywhere, but if it's not a good time for you, if you can't be relaxed, it will be hard for your baby to relax. 

So, a good first step is that no matter what is going on around you, be certain that you and your baby can still be focused and connected with one another. Relax, take a deep breath, look at your baby and consider that you are committing whatever time you have just for you and your baby. Babies are intelligent beings, intuitive and can't be fooled. They know when our heads are somewhere else. Relax, breath, and think of a time when you felt relaxed - like walking on the beach or napping (ahhh those days! remember?), how about laughing with friends, or the feeling of getting hugged by someone you love?....As these thoughts run through your head, your biochemistry is likely changing and you are begninning to relax. This is a good time to check in with baby.